The Great Transition
Something is going on. You can see it in peoples faces. People are struggling. A few times a week I get told by clients, friends and neighbors that their lives are harder than they’ve ever been. Their relationships are suffering, significant others are complaining that they never see each other anymore and their chidren are acting out. If you were one of the lucky ones to not get laid off, your personal hell is wondering if tomorrow is your last day. Throw on top of that the loss of a home, car and the stress of relocating and you have the perfect emotional disaster.
The Hard Reset
When I was young, most of our vacations were camping. We celebrated birthdays with relatives and someone would make a cake. Dinners were always at home and occasionally we would get pizza. We almost never went out and life seemed pretty good.
As I got older things started to change. Mom’s started driving nicer cars, eating out for most meals seemed normal and multiple vacations per year were standard. The bar got raised. Weekends now consisted of shuttling kids from one event to the next, while planning the adult get together that evening. Life was busy, over committed and unsustainable. Something had to give.
As we are all living through now, the economy is in a recession. The money that we had previously relied upon is gone. How we lived before is slowly eroding away and we are experiencing how to live with less. This isn’t fun, but maybe just what we needed.
Get Excited About Something New
The most common theme amongst most people that I speak with is that they want more control. Several times a week I speak to people that don’t necessarilly want to work less, but they want more flexibility. They are ready for something different. Some of the symptoms I hear that people are experiencing include anxiety, depression and even anger. Again, this is unsustainable and will rot the foundation of any relationship or employment.
Recently I listened to a great podcast where an author was interviewed about a book he wrote about depression. He made some interesting points about depression and they can be applied here. He said, time and again that peoples symptoms of depression were due to the perception that their life was in flux. They felt they lacked control, were powerless and victims of their life. They were stuck.
There is a way out. The following explanation is hard, not because it’s a lot of work, but you have to really dig deep down and decide what you want your life to be. It’s a tough decision, but has a huge payoff. What I am talking about here is “The Plan.”
Time To Plan Your Future
There is no better comfort than knowing what is going to happen tomorrow. Humans love routine. It actually helps us get things done. There is a reason why our learning institutions are set up the way they are. You get a schedule of courses, you go to them on the prescribed days, then redo it again the next semester or quarter, until you’re done. It just works. Following a plan works.
Planning is really fun, because it can be whatever you want it to be. When my wife and I were moving down to San Diego, we planned when it was going to happen, where we would live and where we wanted to work. It was like a checklist and everytime we completed an item and were able to check it off our list, it was a huge accomplishment. Even better, is that we felt WE were in control, not our employer, not other family members, but us only. It was an incredible and empowering time.
Many of my clients are planning. They are starting their own business, reinvigorating their existing business or planning to start something in the future while still at their current job. The energy is high. New business ventures are exciting, because the possibilities are endless. Having hope and control over your future is better than money. Knowing that you only have to stay at your terrible job for just a little longer, makes it almost bearable.
So, now is the time to plan your future. It’s not going to be easy, but you are in control. You can start today and plan to be done two years from now. If other things happen along the way, that’s okay, just adjust the plan. You can be as conservative or aggressive as you want to be. Make sure your plan includes what YOU want to do, not what everyone else wants you to do. Make sure to set your goals high and create smaller goals in between, they are stepping stones to the larger goal. When those goals get completed, it’s an amazing feeling. Remember, it really is about the journey, but knowing what’s going to happen tomorrow is the best feeling of all.

(Note: the picture is of my new dog Kona on my chemical free lawn!) A couple years ago I really started thinking about all of the chemicals we use around the house. From the multiple bottles in the shower, on the bathroom counter and under the sink. Couple that with what you have in the garage and any seasonally professional bug spraying and you have quite the chemistry experiment going on.
Saying that you want to “go green” is a lot easier than doing it. You have to make new choices every day. There is a big learning curve, what is green, what isn’t green and so on. It could get so frustrating that you may just want to walk away from it all together. Don’t. Let me show you the right way to go green.
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